Relationships

When the person you love shuts down, it's usually fear, not punishment. A therapist on what's underneath it, connection before correction, and what to say.

Let me ask you something, and be honest with yourself when you answer. When's the last time you and your partner did something that was just for the two of you? Not the kids. Not the business. Not the fifty things you're holding together that nobody else even sees. Just you two. If you had to stop and think about it, stay with me. This one's about how to date your partner again. I'm going to tell you something it took me twenty years of marriage to figure out, and I really wi

I was driving home from the gym when I heard it come out of me. Out loud, alone in the car, at nobody. I am tired of living like this. My throat said the thing before my brain caught up. My heart was pounding, a headache pressing in behind my eyes, and I sat there at the red light, a little frightened of how true it felt. Here is what matters about that moment, and about losing yourself in a relationship. While I was grateful for the life I had, I knew I was feeling stuck in